What is coaching?
Support to achieve your goals
At a very basic level, coaching is support to achieve your goals. A more expansive definition of coaching is a safer space for growth (that may involve healing.) It is an action-oriented space that is future-focused. This is a space where you figure out what is calling you. And you get to work with a coach to create a plan and movement to make that calling into reality. Coaching also provides a space to slow down, to reflect on what is important to you and how you can bring more of that into your life.
Co-creative relationship
By nature, coaching is a co-creative relationship where one person is trying to bring about a change in their life and a coach is holding space, perspective, and empathy for that change to manifest. It is a safer space that is objective, free of masks to be able to explore the uncomfortable feelings, thoughts, and anything that may prevent you from manifesting the change that is calling you.
And, coaching is also a space where you have a loving and supportive accountability partner.
Not therapy or advising
Therapy:
Therapy is about healing wounds from the past, coaching is action and future-focused (although it may bring healing, but we are not centering that.)
Advising
Advising is about telling people what to do, coaching assumes the people already know the answer and need space and support to have clarity and act on it.
Coaching approach
Psychosynthesis Coaching
Rooted in transpersonal psychology, psychosynthesis coaching invites us to manifest what is calling us in alignment with our spiritual, emotional, physical, and mental aspects holistically. As you work to develop your goals, the goals are in alignment with a deeper sense of purpose and meaning in your life. They are aligned with your values, not what you believe you should do based on what you perceive society expects of you.
Appreciative Inquiry
Appreciative Inquiry (AI) is an organizational development process to figure out when a human system is at its best and how it can replicate it. In coaching, I use this approach to help you figure out when you are at your best (the conditions, people, and elements that bring you there) and what changes you can create in your life as we work on manifesting your goals and calling. The aim is for you to be at your best as much as possible. That doesn’t mean you’ll always be happy and comfortable. It means that you go through life with the best resources and tools you can possibly have based on your values, preferences, and calling.
Racial + Social Justice
Social justice is the fair distribution of resources across all people, regardless of their positionality within a social group (aka their social identities.) In a just society, each member and group is affirmed, respected, valued, and held accountable. Racial justice is the fair treatment of people of all races, through deliberate systems that support racial equity (equitable outcomes based on race.)
Racial and social justice are rooted in my practice. They manifest through explicit consideration of how our social identities impact our coaching relationship. I pay attention to how our co-creation may perpetuate systemic oppression, especially white supremacy culture, and invite us to consider how the change that is calling you can advance racial and social justice.
This includes paying close attention to the norms, behaviors, and beliefs that present themselves (yours and mine) and at times shifting them to be rooted in justice, liberation, and love. as appropriate, we will consider how your calling and goal(s) affect others. And if or how they need to be involved if the decision affects them.